Created for Connection

 A Hold Me Tight® Relationship Enhancement Workshop
for Christian Couples

Repair, enhance and continually grow the connection in your love relationship


Romantic love is all about attachment and emotional bonding. It is all about our wired-in need to have someone to depend on, a loved one who can offer reliable emotional connection and comfort. Love is not the icing on the cake of life. It is a basic primary need, like oxygen or water. Once we understand and accept this, we can more easily get to the heart of relationship problems.” – Sue Johnson




Marriages do not fail because of financial problems, too much fighting, conflict, or lack of sex. Research shows the primary reason your marriage is most likely to fail is because of a lack of positive emotional responsiveness and affection. The knowing smile has disappeared. Gone are the gentle touches or spontaneous hugs. We were created for connection. We were created to love. When our love connections are not secure, we hurt.

A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all people. We are biologically,
cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those
needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb.
We ache. We hurt others. We get sick.” – Brené Brown

The goal of this workshop is to help couples repair, enhance, and continually grow the connection in their love relationship. No matter the stage of your relationship, married or not, this workshop will teach you and your spouse how to connect emotionally to create the relationship of your dreams.

  • Learn what drives distress and distance
  • Understand the logic of emotions
  • Identify, recognize, and stop that negative repetitive pattern
  • Create safety so you can complete conversations
  • Recover, repair and forgive emotional injuries
  • Enhance your sexual intimacy

This couples’ workshop consists of eight 2-hour sessions over two Saturdays. This educational program is based on the theory and practice of Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. It follows the format of her books; “Created for Connection” and “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love”, and covers:

Week 1 

  • Understanding Love and Attachment – Introduction
  • Recognizing The Demon Dialogues – How Love Goes Wrong
  • Finding the Raw Spots – Identify stuck points and begin to make sense of your own and your partner’s emotions and needs
  • Revisiting a Rocky Moment – Learn how to talk about hurts and repair rifts in your relationship


  • Hold Me Tight – Engaging and Connecting – Communicate to develop deeper understanding and closeness
  • Forgiving Injuries – Learn how to repair and forgive emotional injuries
  • Bonding through Sex and Touch – Deepen your emotional and physical connection
  • Keeping Your Love Alive – Create rituals and care for your relationship

Note: It is recommended that you obtain and read either “Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” or “Created for Connection: The “Hold Me Tight” Guide for Christian Couples” prior to attending the workshop.


Please contact us if your Church is interested in hosting a Created for Connection Workshop.

Details of upcoming workshops will be posted on our news and events page, and you can also be kept informed via our newsletter when you join our mailing list.


“Hold Me Tight®” is a registered trademark to Sue Johnson.